They also exchange gifts for each other’s children. Becker’s teenagers have learned to expect gifts that include one thing they need, one thing they want, and a shared family experience.
Marion Haberman, a YouTuber at My Jewish Mommy Life, and her extended family are pursuing a strategy that does not require multi-person gift exchanges with several people over eight nights in Hanukkah.
“We only make gifts for the kids – nieces, nephews, grandchildren – for their birthdays,” she says. “At home we make a present for every child every night.”
3. Create your gift strategy
Gifts are not necessarily wrapped for Haberman’s family. A gift can be a voucher for a jelly donut or a night of building a fort and watching movies.
Nordmann’s children are usually given a present, a present, clothes and a book. Nordmann and her husband make gifts for other family members.
“We had a really good harvest for our garden this year,” she says. “We’re going to make hot sauces and papaya jelly.”
By giving thoughtful gifts that don’t weigh on their budget, they can further replenish the income they lost during the pandemic. The setback has delayed the couple’s early retirement goals. Her husband, an auto mechanic, was unemployed for two months and their vacation homes had to close at the same time.